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April 2017

Mind KEY / 2017 (Page 2)

Spending and your child: The effect of advertising on our youth

By Amanda Hollenbeck “I want, I want, I want.”  Every parent has heard these words ad nauseum. They’ve also heard how and why everything their children have seen on the television or via Youtube is something that they should own. Once children own the item they were yearning for, they usually lose interest in it, and move on to the next thing that they want. What role does advertising play in this dance, and are children more susceptible to advertising than adults Parents want to know how to avoid spending money on things kids only think they want while finding a better kind of currency to help children grow into happier, healthier adults. Research concluded that children who are eight years old or younger as especially vulnerable...

By recognizing abundance, you can calculate your piece of the prosperity pie

Abundance: There’s enough for everyone

By Barbara Steingas Most of us are brought up and taught to think there is lack in the universe, and that we aren’t deserving of abundance and prosperity, or that creating prosperity is reserved only for an elite few. For example, have your parents ever said, Money doesn’t grow on trees?” Or, “Do you think I’m made of money?” Or, “Save your pennies?” ​I heard these and other sayings repeatedly when I was a kid. My dad, especially, had lack issues with money.  I picked up on these beliefs, and as a result, have been self-sabotaging myself in the area of finances and prosperity despite making a good income as a physical therapist.   Strategies for creating prosperity Self-awareness and discovering the source of “lack” [caption id="attachment_5830" align="alignright" width="459"] Photo...

Through the understanding of marketing, you can combat your social media spending

How to Silence Your Spending in the Social Media Age

By Amanda Hollenbeck Tax season is in the air, and that means social media spending is on the rise. Some people decide to use their refunds by paying an ugly bill, saving for something important, or purchasing an item they truly want. Then, there are people who get click-happy and blow their refund on something they thought they wanted in the moment. Give those people a little slack—compulsive purchases are not always one’s own doing; sometimes, there are outside influences. Online shopping and social media has only added new marketing tactics to the pot. Conscious online shopping means becoming aware of those influences before making an online purchase.   Social media’s impact on online shopping Progressively, “living online” has become the norm, and companies are focused heavily on improving...

Using personal currency to get what you want

By Dr. Lisa Avila Everyone moves through the world meeting needs, healthy or not. It is what we all do as human beings, using our greatest tools to influence the people around us to engage with us in a way that fills our needs. This subtle manipulation is very human, and we do it mostly unaware. But what happens when we become aware of the currency we move through the world with? Many years ago, I went on a blind date with a man who spent most of our time together trying to discuss a friend of his who was getting a divorce. “She only wanted the lifestyle...

Sweat equity is an amazing alternative to using cash as a way of getting things done

Sweat Equity – a good alternative to spending cash

by Vera Remes I have said more than once, I am a “sweat equity kinda gal.”   Borne out of necessity as a young person on a limited budget, and now as an old person on a limited budget, sweat equity was a good alternative to spending cash that could be earmarked for other purposes.  But what is sweat equity, exactly, and how can it work for you?   What is sweat equity? Sweat equity seems to be the currency of the future and it serves many purposes. It is a way for someone to advance in life, doing something they love to do and are good at. It is also, as I have found, a way to have a unique job experience that teaches skills that will survive...

7 Tips for getting what you want: Bartering For A win-win Deal

By Maria Majet Reyes In the dog-eat-dog world we live in, it is a bit hard to trust other people.  There is always that question of, “What’s in it for me?”  Take a step back and consider this question instead, “How can I help that person?”  This simple question will help you in get what you want by creating a win-win deal.   In business you want to work with people you like, and people you trust. You buy from these people, and you even refer your friends to them. But what makes you like another individual?  Usually the person makes you feel good about yourself.  When people make a deal with each other, they need to feel good afterwards. They can walk away feeling respected because...

Time banks: Currency the way it was meant to be

By Amanda Hollenbeck The act of time banking has become a popular practice across the country, but it is not a brand-new convention. According to the official time bank website, in the 1980’s, Edgar Cahn coined the concept of Time Banking as  exchanging time and effort in lieu of physical cash for services. Cahn’s idea of time banking was birthed after Ronald Reagan proposed cuts to social programs. Cahn thought that without these programs and lack of social funding, money would have extreme power, and communities might fall apart. By using time banking, communities have the ability to build and connect outside of the of the power and, sometimes corruption, of physical money. Thanks to the efforts of thousands who have participated in time banking and the...

Professionals can help you find a sustainable job by pursuing your passion

How to earn money pursuing your passion

By Tamara Rokicki The traditional nine-to-five job is no longer the only way to earn money.  We live in a time when traditional living is becoming less applicable. Today, having a sustainable job means making a living doing what you love.  People everywhere are discovering that living a full and satisfying life includes doing things that make them happy—hobbies and passions that make them feel alive and well rounded. Many bloggers, Etsy shop owners, and YouTubers own their passions by creating their own little business empire. The Mind Key Project was founded on the belief that everyone is not only entitled to financial freedom through the pursuit of his or her dreams. We also believe that by denying our talents, passions and dreams, we sell ourselves short...

Financial freedom does not always come from the simple idea of money

Why your financially secure job may not bring you financial freedom

By Wendy Watson-Hallowell How many of us have gone down a career path we didn’t care about, stayed in a job we hated, or worked for someone where we could not be ourselves with the idea it helped us to stay safe and somewhat free? Happiness and financial freedom are a tricky combination. I have compromised many of my own dreams and personal values to make more money, and to ensure more money would come. However, I was always driven by a subtle fear of not having enough money, and felt like I was constantly jeopardizing my safety and freedom. Many of us have given up on our passion, pleasure, and self-respect in the ongoing struggle to make the almighty dollar. We feel we have to...

currency no longer equates to money, but finding ways to do what you love

Currency and exchange: It’s not just about money anymore

by Danielle Rose In light of everyone’s favorite time of year—tax return season—we decided to make our April issue all about currency. We chose the term “currency” rather than "money" because the world is shifting. What used to be about cash flow is now about exchange… and exchanges don’t always happen with cash—or credit—for that matter. Barter has come back in a big way—often in ways we don't immediately recognize. Have you ever babysat  someone else’s children, only to have them do the same for you in return? Or have you helped your neighbor shovel after a storm, to find a casserole on your front steps a few days later? Sometimes, we barter with the utmost understanding that bartering is exactly what we're doing. Mind Key practices...

Overcoming vulnerability through art and finding your happiness

Creativity: The Art of Happy

By Amanda Hollenbeck Vulnerability is not a feeling people tend to view positively. Typically, vulnerability is related to the pain after a heartbreak, the tears after a death, or to the shame after a failure. Overcoming vulnerability tends to become a focus on the end result, rather than the journey. However, it’s impossible to find happiness without being vulnerable enough to take chances to create that happiness.   The consequences of numbing vulnerability In her 2012 TEDx talk in Houston, Brene Brown, a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work, states that people attempt to numb vulnerability because it has been largely tied to this idea of pain, of being in debt, of having obesity, of being addicted, or of being heavily medicated. Completely omitting...

Planting trees benefit India and humanity

Trees benefiting humanity–Bringing healing, hope and rain to India and the world

By Amanda Hollenbeck Trees are not simply an aesthetically pleasing aspect of warmer climates, or an ideal backdrop for an outdoor picnic. They benefit the environment, and our daily lives in many important ways.   Trees benefit humanity and the environment According to the World Wildlife Federation (WWF), about 31% of the planet is covered with trees. These trees produce oxygen that is vital for the survival of Earth and humanity. They also play a crucial role in regulating carbon dioxide in the atmosphere. WWF hypothesizes that about 15% of greenhouse gas emissions are a result of deforestation.  Deforestation poses an immediate threat to people living in areas without significant  tree and plant life. According to a 2016 report from the Institute for European Environmental Policy, people who are located in cities...

Renew your talents by understanding your past lives

Renew Your Innate Talents Through Understanding Past Lives

By Carlie Currier In January, we featured an article about past life hypnosis. Some believe that individuals who have recalled past life memories have somehow tapped into a higher consciousness—one that can often lead to the development of new talents and creative abilities. Creativity can also help us in understanding past lives. In a 2014 study reviewed by the American Psychological Association found that those who reported having past life memories scored significantly higher on a variety of creativity measures. No matter how we use our creativity to achieve a flow state, we can all reach a similar realm of creation to draw inspiration and open up our minds to new concepts.   Channeling creativity and the transcendent Kerstin Zettmar, professional artist and holistic healer, has witnessed...

Self renew by trying shamanism

Can’t Afford a Vacation? Self renew with shamanism

by Vera Remes When I hear the word renewal, I picture a battery-operated toy running out of juice, and the batteries being recharged or replaced so it continue on its way.  For some people a massage offers a renewal, for others it’s a good night sleep. I have felt re-charged, renewed, after a Caribbean vacation.   What if we could renew ourselves whenever we felt we needed it? I haven’t had a vacation or massage in years.  I think I figured out how to self renew without even knowing it.     Everything is energy and energy is everything. With his famous equation E= mc2, Albert Einstein proved that, when you come right down to it, everything in the universe is energy. Both the physical reality of matter, and...

Nature Deficit Disorder is a true problem in our tech-advanced society

Nature Deficit Disorder—Could You Be a Victim?

by Julia Booth, a Fall 2016 graduate of William Paterson University, NJ Could you be a victim of Nature Deficit Disorder? Are you spending more time inside in front of the television/computer screen instead of enjoying the green scenery of nature? Are you noticing a sense of hostility and change in behavior throughout the day? If your answers are yes, you may be suffering from Nature Deficit Disorder.   What is Nature Deficit Disorder? Nature Deficit Disorder (NDD) is not something characterized in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). Although not included in this book used by psychiatrists and psychologists to diagnose and treat mental illnesses, NDD is something very real. Richard Louv, an American author and founder and chairperson of the Children and Nature Network, and...

Reduce the negative impact of stress by using outdoor stress relief remedies

Outdoor Stress Relief: How Nature Helps You Heal

That nature provides the resources we need to relax our bodies and counteract our stress levels may seem obvious. Then why do millions of people suffer from such stress-related conditions as heart issues, high blood pressure, and tensed muscles. Outdoor stress relief is one of the most natural cures for stress-induced health issues. In this new age, people are beyond strained. A 2014 poll conducted by NPR and the Harvard School of Public Health found that one in four Americans had suffered a great deal of stress. Many people understand that being in nature can have a positive impact on our bodies and our minds. Too many, however, ignore these understandings because they do not know the underlying processes of how nature helps. Dr. Doni...

Renew the environment and yourself with spring cleaning

Spring cleaning: Overcoming the vestiges of winter

By Charla Dury A couple of years ago I wrote the following blog.  With March’s theme of renewal, I look back again with a critical eye, noticing the trends that the Denver Metro area goes through on an annual basis.  Renewal is an exciting time to shed the old, and blossom once again in the warmth.  To come out of your winter shell and wear bright colors. I find this particularly interesting to note after last week’s discussion on addiction, particularly considering the kind of trash commonly found under the snow. Renewal and spring cleaning--both physically and metaphorically--is such an important part of recovery, and overcoming the winter blahs. Wear your bright colors again, Denver!   [caption id="attachment_5675" align="alignright" width="300"] Photo by Charla Dury[/caption] Spring cleaning: Liquor bottles and the...

Spring renewal--the blueprint for recreating your life experiences

Hatching seeds: A blueprint for recreating your life experiences

Today is the first day of spring. With the abundant imagery of seeds bursting forth, things hatching, and leaves unfurling, spring renewal is the perfect time to imagine blossoming into our fullest expression of self.  In her post, “The Blueprint,” business consultant and wellness coach, Rebecca Polan, offers her perspective on how the human blueprint is incredibly similar to that of a seed’s. We can use this understanding and imagery to break free of our own fears and barriers. Then we can become the “we” we dream of becoming. Spring Renewal: A blueprint By Rebecca Polan Seeds are potential plants.  The seed is at the same time a little package of information about what it will become...

Alternative addiction treatment

Alternative Addiction Treatment for Alcoholism: Natural and Holistic Options

By Danielle Rose Alcoholism and addiction is often considered a disease.  From this angle, as with all diseases, there is more than one way to approach a plan of healing.  If recovery feels too clinical, consider working with your recovery team and adding alternative addiction treatment in order to connect and heal through the process of self-renewal. I’ve pulled from my research and personal experience working with those recovering from addiction. In conjunction with expert clinical advice from Dr. Lisa Avila, we've create a shortlist of some all-natural and alternative addiction treatment methods to support a recovery program.  This list is by no means all-inclusive. Additionally, these methods should not be attempted without a broader action plan and support group in place.     Alternative addiction treatment through dietary...

children of addicts must make their own way

Children of addiction: Love, abuse, resentment and recovery

 by Melissa Cassiano, William Paterson University, NJ student writer About 28 million Americans are children of substance abusers, 11 million of whom are under the age of 18, according to the National Association for Children of Alcoholics (NACA) Children of Addicted Parents Fact Sheet. The fate of an addict’s children, is directly intertwined to that of the parent. Children of addicts, specifically those addicted to drugs and alcohol, are not destined to become addicts themselves, nor do they always grow to resent their sick parent.   How addiction affects families The possibility of abuse is a concern for children of addicts.  According to the NACA, an overwhelming number of child welfare professionals claim substance abuse is the number one cause of the dramatic rise in child maltreatment, and that...

10 resources for addiction recovery

A Mind Key follower shares ten well-known addiction resources he has worked with, and offers his personal perspective. As someone still struggling with addiction, we have chosen not to share his name.  Perhaps one or more of them could be a resource for you, or someone you love. #1 Alcoholics Anonymous One resource I found many times inspiring, and just the same many times boring, was a type of AA meeting [caption id="attachment_5662" align="alignright" width="300"] There are many different kinds of AA meetings. Try a few to determine which one is the best fit for you.[/caption] called the Commitments.  They’re comprised of two or three people who are typically long term AA members.  They have worked all 12 steps and are many years invested into sobriety and AA itself....

understanding addiction goes a long way in recovery

Understanding addiction: More than just a disease

by Danielle Rose Understanding addiction goes a long way in discovering and mitigating the source of the disease.  There a several different types of addiction, and many related causes. Renewal is, in part, uncovering the root cause of our present situation, and using that understanding to create new behaviors and patterns. Impulsiveness as a means of understanding addiction A number of studies indicate a strong connection between impulsiveness and addictive behavior, particularly in substance addiction. A 2017 study published in the journal, Addiction, confirms that delayed reward discounting—a clinical measure of impulsive behavior—was highly associated with not only the quantity and frequency of addiction, but the severity of the addiction, regardless of the behavior in question. For example, a 2009 study published in the journal of Pharmacology, Biochemistry, and Behavior...

Spring is the best time to renew your career

Why Spring Is the Best Time to Renew Your Work Options and Career Goals

By Rebecca Pall, Mind Key intern   With spring being a time of renewal in nature, it is also a great time to find opportunities to better our well-being.  One of the many changes that people may undergo is finding a new source of employment. The energy of the season notwithstanding, professionally speaking, spring is an ideal time to clean up your resume and begin the hunt for a new job.     The best time of year to job-hunt is now According to an article published by Career Sidekick, a website devoted to helping people advance their career and find better jobs, March, April, and May are some of the best times to apply for a new job. This is because employees  tend to take family vacations in the...

Release and renew is a great way to fall into spring

Spring cleaning at its finest—Release as a form of renewal

By Barbara Steingas Spring is a traditional time of year for renewal. It is also a time to branch out and expand again after the hibernating effects of the winter. In order to release and renew, we need to let go of what we no longer want to make room for what we do want. Just like the saying, “out with old and in with the new.”   Releasing the tangible Places to release and renew include physical items that are cluttering our homes, or are no longer something we need to cling onto. I always love to do a spring cleaning and reorganize to start fresh again for the season. My mom was visiting me through the holidays until her birthday near the end of February, so we...

changing limiting beliefs leaves you free

Change your limiting beliefs: Change your life

By Wendy Watson-Hallowell The limiting beliefs we carry inside can create enormous levels of stress, struggle, and strife on the outside. Ultimately, this keeps us from making the changes we desire. Changing limiting beliefs to ones that work in our favor can be tricky when those beliefs lie hidden in our unconscious awareness. Yet… beliefs are just thoughts we keep thinking until they become true for us. When we challenge and change the beliefs that are working against us, we can create what we desire, with little effort, in every area of our lives. The key is to move our attention away from controlling ourselves and everything around us. Then we can move our focus to what we have real control over—our beliefs—and the feelings, actions and circumstances...

getting outdoors means beholding more beauty

Getting outdoors: Tips to get motivated and get out

The Mind Key Community offers their tips for getting outdoors Yesterday’s post talked about ways that being outdoors can benefit your psyche and your body. Even though the weather is improving as we approach spring, shaking the cobwebs of winter isn’t always easy—especially when temps still dip below zero now and again. However, getting outdoors is important in more ways than one.   New York Times best selling author, Dr. Joseph Mercola, said that getting outside can boost your creativity and focus, improve your mood and self-esteem, and increase your vitamin D levels. It can also improve your workouts and overall healing potential.   Lack of Vitamin D from lack of sunlight can be a very real and very intrusive cause of depression. Other than the occasional day where it...

Getting outdoors: Your March Checklist

by Allelia Cesa, a Fall 2016 graduate of William Paterson University, NJ If embraced, March can be a time of a great renewal of one’s mind, spirit and soul. In nature, everything that had died or turned off in the winter starts to come back. Babies are born, flowers reappear, and everything returns to life. You, too, can join the flowers and come back to life by getting outdoors. The Mind Key Community offers their perspective on being outside, and why they find solace in the great outdoors.   The outdoors as a source of creative and spiritual renewal   [caption id="attachment_5570" align="alignleft" width="250"] Gardening allows Amy to see other possibilities in her designs[/caption] Despite being an artist inspired by nature, Amy Cousin of Amy Cousin Jewelry said renewal is an important...

flowers

March’s issue: Renewal, a recipe for achievement and growth

Renewal marks a change in our lives. It means to start anew, freshen up lifestyles, ideals, ways of thinking and even our relationships. Sometimes we can become stuck in broken connections or repeating patterns. Renewal becomes an opportunity to shed the skin of old and to become the person you were meant to be. There’s no better time to do this than when the earth is doing the same. In spring, we revel in the scent of fresh air, the sound of birds singing and the wonder of nature being reborn. After the hibernation of winter, spring is (excuse the pun) a breath of fresh air. It’s easy to allow the new energy to envelop us and take us with it.  And why shouldn't we allow it?  We...

our inner child reflects into adulthood

Wrapping up Relationships: February’s issue in review

We have a relationship with everyone we meet—whether we like it or not.  Navigating relationships is at the crux of humanity.  When we are on point in our relationships, we feel great!  When our relationships are suffering—whether that is our relationship with ourselves, a troublesome family member, or a romantic interest—everything else suffers. Building healthy and productive relationships helps us in every aspect of our lives. That’s why, this month, we chose to tackle the concept of relationships from a variety of angles—discussing everything from our relationship with ourselves, to sex and intimacy, and even our relationship with the paranormal.  Here’s a peek into what we found. Sometimes a mentor is all you need to grab your dreams. Mind Key strives to be that boost for young...

Helping spirits–White Raven Investigates our relationship with the Paranormal

by Vera Remes As a shamanic practitioner, I have become familiar with the concept of “helping spirits"--those known to assist humanity. I have come to depend on them when I am involved with healings specifically.  But there is a yin to this yang.  Opposing the helping spirits are troublesome entities that can create havoc, sometimes referred to in shamanism as “akura.”   This is where spiritual investigations come into play. Whether a healing or a haunting, these negative spirits exist and can affect the living in many physical or spiritual ways.  We each have our guides and helping spirits who, just like us, are stronger together than apart.  When navigating them, it’s best to evaluate your relationship to yourself and your surroundings, and then call in help. What the...

sexual dysfunction is usually stemmed in spirituality and energy issues

Sexual dysfunction: A physical or energetic representation of health?

by Dr. Lisa Avila [caption id="attachment_5543" align="alignright" width="244"] To truly express our sexuality, we must release any latent judgements we may have been conditioned to believe about what’s acceptable or unacceptable sexually. Art by Sean David Wright[/caption] When I first read this quote by Caroline Myss, one of my earlier teachers and mentors, I didn't know what to do with it. Most of my life has been devoted to finding the root causes of what ails the body and the mind. As a healthcare practitioner, I found endless opportunities to explore the validity of the above quote. Later in my career, I spent time exploring the bridges between physical discomfort, emotional/spiritual distress, and body chemistry balance. In examining sexual dysfunction, I learned that the interplay between sex...

monogamy and std testing are not mutually exclusive

STDs—Don’t let your long-term relationship fool you

by Melissa Casiano, student writer at William Paterson University, NJ Everyone understands the importance of getting tested regularly for sexually transmitted diseases. However, the discussion is usually associated with couples who are starting out, people who are sexually “free,” or when people are suspicious of their partner. Veteran couples, on the other hand, tend to forget about sexual health altogether, due to the fact that they trust their partner and haven’t been with anyone else. Monogamy and STD testing don't normally go hand-in-hand, but the landscape on this might change.   Why get tested? ​According to the CDC, symptoms sometimes take years to appear for some sexually transmitted Diseases (STDs), and because some diseases, such as herpes, can sometimes be mistaken for other conditions. Many couples get tested once...

women in cloaks by Alma Carel

Sex in two worlds: A Middle Eastern perspective on intimacy

By Colleen Jennings If you are from a Western country, you probably have never stopped to consider the amount of contact you have with the opposite sex throughout the course of your daily life. You went to school with boys and girls and spent all your days with friends and family members of both sexes. Sex, and the understanding of it, is flavored by each of these experiences and encounters. However, if you grew up in the Middle East sex no longer looks the same, as contact with members of the opposite sex was most likely severely limited. How does understanding this perspective offer our more open culture insight into improving the quality of the sexual experiences? In most Middle Eastern countries—but particularly in the more conservative,...

teaching kids intimacy and healthy relationship boundaries

Teaching your teen about healthy relationship boundaries

by Charla Dury As a mom of growing young men, I struggle with parental boundaries.  It is difficult to know when (and how) to give my kids advice about romantic relationships, let alone teaching kids about intimacy. I enjoy watching my boys happy in their relationships, but as with the rest of life, that’s not always the case.  I’ve also watched with disappointment as each of my boys have cultivated codependent tendencies. Knowing that they learned these relationship “moves” from me and their dad makes me sad. As a parent in today’s society, we’ve all heard that kids learn by example. It has never been more apparent, however, than it is when watching as your child makes the mistakes you had hoped that they didn’t see.  The times...

Intimacy and wellness: Your relationship with sex

[caption id="attachment_5499" align="alignright" width="300"] relationships are an interesting dynamic of health, emotion, spirituality, and our perception of the world. Image by JoAnna Schillaci[/caption] Sex affects, and is affected by, our health, our personal belief systems and our relationship with those we love most.  This interplay makes sex not only a pivotal player in any intimate relationship—but also one of the most talked about relationship topics within our society.  At the same time, sexual intimacy is rarely a subject discussed with much depth. This week, The Daily Key strives to break the boundaries of the sex conversation. We are going deeper with discussions on how the relationship with our health, our beliefs, and our cultural upbringing affects our sexuality as individuals, and as a society. To launch the discussion, Ojanae...

better sleep means better health

How many all-nighters are too many–your relationship with sleep

By Mary Thorpe, Fall 2016 graduate of William Paterson University, N.J. As a young adult, I am told to enjoy college, because it, “doesn’t get much better than this.” The advice, however, prompts me to think the opposite: stress, hard times, and lack of sleep associated with the college years. Stress and sleep have a delicate relationship. Getting better sleep can go a long way in alleviating the affects extreme stress and sleep deprivation can have on mental health. Stress and sleep in college students Studies from the 2015 National College Health Assessment show that 30% of college students felt stress had a negative impact on their academic performance. A whopping 85% said that they have felt “overwhelmed by all they had to do” within the last twelve...

Love locks in Prague--long distance relationships

There is strength in distance: The benefit of long distance relationships

by Rebecca Pall Relationships are a wonderful and beautiful thing, but keeping things special can be a gray area when it comes to long distance relationships. I started a relationship in the beginning of May, but went away on a travel program for six weeks in the middle of June.  Before I left, there was a question of whether or not the relationship would last, or if the distance would be too much for us to handle. The relationship lasted, thanks to the help of technology and social media, but may not have been as successful if we didn’t have technology to assist us. What it means to be in a long distance relationship [caption id="attachment_5441" align="alignleft" width="300"] Social media and technology can actually bring you closer if you...

positivity is all attitude

Changing your relationship with the world: The Power of Positivity

by Paola Scaduto, Mind Key intern and Fall 2016 graduate of William Paterson University, N.J. Are you happy? Do you have good energy around you and do positive situations occur for you? Are you depressed? Do you feel like your negative feelings might result in negative situations? Positivity is important for not only us, but for those around us. Self-help gurus talk about manifestation In his book, “The Light in the Heart,” Roy T. Bennett writes, “The more you feed your mind with positive thoughts, the more you can attract great things in your life.” Barbara Frederickson writes in her landmark paper that negative emotions are when extreme, prolonged or contextually inappropriate behaviors, “produce many grave problems for individuals and society, ranging from phobias and anxiety disorders, aggression and...

marginalized-- Susan Jacoby

Overcoming helplessness in a victimized world

by Dr. Lisa Avila In chiropractic school, a teacher I liked very much mentioned that he found people came into the office in clusters—a cluster of people with shoulder issues, a cluster of low back pain issues, a cluster of digestion issues. One year into private practice, I had already seen this to be true.   Recently, the cluster of issues presenting is people feeling marginalized. This trend has persisted every day since last summer, so much so that it has been hard to ignore. Some have used that word, marginalized, and some have used similar words that convey the same message. Some have cried, and some have been very angry. And everyone, all of them, have brought up random moments of being abused within their personal histories.   Imagine?...

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how we relate to ourselves leaves us either connected, or alone

Live and Let Live: A philosophy for strong relationships

by Vera Remes [caption id="attachment_5425" align="alignleft" width="206"] art by Kennedy Shenberg[/caption] Everyone we meet, if only for a minute, we relate to in some way.  Think of yourself walking in the mall, throngs of people passing to the left and right.  You think very little about them, don’t even look them in the eye. You’re in live and let live mode. But if someone fell, would you step over them or help them up? If someone stole your wallet, would you chase them, struggle over it or let them have it since they must need it more than you.  Whatever you do, you are “relating”.     Personally, I like the “live and let live” way of being. I can honestly look at a situation unfolding before me--a parent...

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letting go of toxic relationships

When relationships hold you back–Letting go of the limiting beliefs, not the connection

Toxic relationships take energy away from our personal path of growth. Ending a relationship that no longer serves us, however, can be a difficult journey. Someone once said to me, “Some people are easy to love, as long as they are in Australia.”  Some people I can only love as long as they live on Mars. The point is that sometimes toxic relationships make it impossible to do that which we love.  When that happens, we have two choices: try to change the relationship, or change the way we experience it. Wendy Watson-Hallowell, Mind Key’s own Belief Coach, shares how we can self-fulfill that which our relationships do not provide, and thereby forge a richer relationship with ourselves, and with those we love most.   Letting go of toxic...

our inner child reflects into adulthood

Looking in the mirror: All relationships reflect our relationship-with-self

The toughest and hardest relationship we will ever have in our lives is our relationship with self. The inner child that lives within has hurts and fears that dictate how we react and relate to others over the course of our lives. That which we dislike and have not embraced inside ourselves gets mirrored back to us by others we encounter. When we are upset by other people’s actions and words, we must look in the mirror to discover what we are not loving about ourselves.   Letting go of the past The more we let go of past hurts, not take things others do personally, forgive our faults and stop believing untruths about ourselves based on what others have told us, the better off we will be. When...

attachment style is formed in youth, and follows us into adulthood

Heal the wounds of youth through romantic relationships

Falling in love means devoting energy into what another person is thinking or feeling. Research indicates that the childhood attachment style we develop have a lasting effect on our adult romantic relationships. Intimate partners often resemble either, or both parents in a variety of ways. Childhood experiences, whether positive or negative, impact the attachments formed in adult relationships, as discussed in a 2005 study published in the journal of Attachment and Human Development.   How childhood relationships affect intimacy as an adult According to the Center for Disease Control, 40-50% of first marriages end in divorce, meaning that few children witness healthy relationships and conflict resolution, leading many to fall into the same conditioned habits and behaviors of their parents. According to a review published by R. Chris Fraley of...

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Do you have what it takes to build the career of your dreams?

Since this month’s issue is all about relationships, we thought now was the perfect time to introduce Mind Key’s relationship with the future.  About a year ago, I cultivated a relationship with Martha Witt of William Paterson University.  Impressed with the Mind Key Project, Professor Witt asked that I speak with her capstone writing class about building a career in writing. What ensued was an assignment worthy of publication. That’s why, over the next few months, you’ll be seeing student pieces published in The Daily Key.  Each student was asked to pitch their story in detail. Upon approval of these pitches, they underwent several drafts. They submitted their final articles at the end of last semester. I have been working with the students, helping them find sources...

gutless and grateful

Self-discovery as a pathway to your dreams: the story behind “Gutless and Grateful”

February's issue is relationships. There is no better way to start than to share the story of how one amazing woman who lost everything to achieve true self-discovery. In doing so, she caught her dream in a way that could have never happened otherwise. By Amy Oestreicher I grew up doing musical theatre. Let me rephrase that. I grew up thinking my life was a musical. Call it the “theatre bug,” call me a “drama queen” or a great big ham--I lived for the world of the stage. Singing and acting were ways I could connect with the world around me. When I took a deep, grounded breath from my gut, I sang what my heart longed to express. I found comfort in the words of my favorite composers. Through theatre, I...

February’s Issue–Relationships: from business to love, and everything in between

Social interaction is a basic and essential human connection. Building healthy and productive relationships helps us in every aspect of our lives. What can we do when we can't seem to connect with others on the levels we desire? How do negative connections affect our physical, mental, and emotional well-being? Enter our theme for February -- Relationships. [caption id="attachment_5380" align="alignleft" width="300"] Photo Courtesy of Charla Dury[/caption] Relationships come in all shapes and sizes...

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Connect the dots–make the most of time

We can’t believe how fast this month has flown by. And that’s just what January’s theme was all about--shifting our perceptions of time to better serve us. No matter what your perception, our society depends on a linear model for almost everything. Can that line be changed? Some articles this month asked readers to challenge their definition of chronology. Others offered guidance on how to make the most of the traditional linear view. Our goal was to help you organize, feel more centered, and incorporate more productivity into your lifestyle. Week One--center yourself In Plan to achieve your dreams, creative journaling becomes a means to be more focused and organized in 2017. Improve productivity and creativity, organize thoughts, and achieve your goals with The helpfulness of lists. Also,...

Amy Oestricher's one-woman-show "Gutless and Grateful"

Time is running out to see a great show!

Time is running out to see Amy Oestreicher’s one-woman-show “Gutless & Grateful,” a moving story of triumph over one of life’s most incredible detours. As writer, director and starring actress, Amy is a creative visionary who wears many hats.  She is a speaker, survivor, columnist, and author of "My Beautiful Detour," available December, 2017. She was also featured on the Today Show with Kathie Lee Gifford, and '16 TEDx Talk. (Be sure to check out her next TEDx on Feb. 17th).   About the show [caption id="attachment_5373" align="alignleft" width="258"] Amy Oestreicher[/caption] “Gutless & Grateful” is an inspirational musical comedy which documents Amy’s experiences of over 25 surgeries, and six years without food. Amy knew she needed to stop waiting for life to catch up to her, so she decided to...

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Not Waiting for Life: Embracing your detour

If anyone can be considered an ‘expert’ at making lemonade, it’s Mind Key’s extraordinary affiliate, Amy Oestreicher. She took the incredibly sour lemons life gave her at the age of 18, and turned them into a sweet adventure that has not only allowed her to achieve her dreams, but to become a stronger woman than she ever imagined.  As someone who hated the idea of waiting, she learned that embracing each moment meant never having to wait again. Today, Amy teaches others to embrace “detourism” as a PTSD peer-to-peer specialist, artist, author, writer, speaker, award-winning actress and playwright. Here, she shares the tale of her personal detour, and how it changed her life. ******************* Amy's Story I’m the youngest kid in my family, and with two doting parents and...

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The best time of year to travel – look to the weather

I love to travel.  From visiting nearby cities and states, to traveling far away, the experience of travel is worth its weight in gold.  If you were to ask me when would be the best time to travel, I’d say any and all the time. I do understand, however, that some times of year are seen as better than others.  Many base their choices on the weather. [caption id="attachment_5264" align="alignleft" width="300"] Cabo San Lucas, Mexico - Image by Charla Dury[/caption] How can the weather be so important, you ask?  It’s all about preference. Wouldn’t a vacation be more enjoyable during calm weather when you can enjoy excursions?  I know I would prefer to drive on clear roads instead of ice if I have the option. While some desirable destinations such...

Don’t be a zombie–Improve email productivity

I am a total email zombie. There's no doubt that my email productivity sucks. I spend more time in my email than any other app.  I constantly flip back and forth from my inbox while working.  I'm the one refreshing my email while waiting in line, running out the door, at the bus stop...

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Using a Journal – Making the most of your time

By Rebecca Pall [caption id="attachment_5333" align="aligncenter" width="630"] Ferris Beuller's Day off , the iconic film of looking around and smelling the roses[/caption] “Life moves pretty fast.  If you don’t stop and look around once in awhile, you could miss it.”   This quote from the 1986 movie, Ferris Beuller’s Day Off, rings true in today’s day and age more than ever.  People have so much going on in their lives that it’s sometimes hard to sit down and really appreciate the time or good experiences that we have in life.   One of the best ways to keep track of memories is through a journal.  It doesn’t have to be a long entry but, having a journal to keep track of the specifics of a couple special memories, can...

Social Media Posting: Timing Strategies Uncovered

Do you feel like you’re always posting on social media, but no one sees your content?  Are you confused about the best time to post? As part of our work bringing you great online communication maintenance services, the Mind Key team is always seeking to unlock the keys to understanding the landscape of online marketing. As we learn from our affiliates, we strive to share their knowledge, and their services with you.  Lori Ramas of Lion LinQ is incredibly savvy when it comes to social media and networking, and has agreed to share some tips on how to best time your social media posts.  Learn more about her at LionLinQ.com, or by contacting team@lionlinq.com to set up a consult to better understand how to make...

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Tips on finding time to be creative from Marie

In our hectic world, it can be difficult to find creative time. Many artists and other creatives have explained that their ideas come to them suddenly, often fueled by strong emotion or intuition. Wendy Watson-Hallowell, the Belief Coach, explains, “When I become inspired, I work hard to clear time in my immediate schedule to write since I know that the urge dissipates when I don't follow it. Sometimes the creative push becomes so strong that I just have to stop and create, or it gets really uncomfortable. When I am not in that creative flow, sitting down to just 'create' because I said I would, isn't very helpful. I find the lack of structure brings out the best in what I have to offer.” So how...

Five Time-Saving Tips for Smartphone Users

[caption id="attachment_5248" align="alignright" width="310"] 2014 Smartphone trends study from the Pew Research Center[/caption] I own a smartphone.  You probably own a smartphone.  Almost everyone I know (except for that one guy who is permanently stuck in the middle ages) owns a smartphone. In fact, as of April 2015, the Pew Research Center reported that two-thirds of Americans own a smartphone. According to a 2012 poll conducted by the analytics and business consulting company Gallup, 58% of adults between 18 and 29 self-reported feeling that they feel they are spending too much time using their smartphone or the internet.  So, while I’m older than the adults in this study (my age bracket reports 30% of us believe we are on our phones too often), I’m certainly not alone in wasting...

Resolve your past life: Fix your present

by Carlie Currier Do you believe we get more than one chance to get this human life right? Massage therapist, yoga instructor, Rosen method practitioner and artist, Kerstin Zettmar, explains that past life regression hypnosis is similar to regression therapy.  Instead of focusing on childhood memories, however, it goes much, much deeper. Vera Remes, owner of Raven Reiki and Mind Key member and writer, started her own practice in hypno-counseling 5 years ago. Past lives have been a significant part of that practice, and she has since become certified to guide clients in past life regression. She believes in the power of visiting past lives to help with issues in your current situations and describes past lives as a, “font of knowledge for inner growth”. New theories on time...

Rock Your Year with Taraleigh the manifesting unicorn

Taraleigh Weathers is a manifesting unicorn! I didn’t know what that meant, either, until I took her four week manifestation course.  Taraleigh speaks with authority and clarity, offering real-time, realistic tools for creating what you want in your life.  During her Manifesting Unicorns course, I watched the dreams of the course’s other participants unfold, and watched myself lay the groundwork for Mind Key’s next adventure.  Now Taraleigh is offering her next course, “Rock Your Year,” to help you attain all of your New Year’s dreams. Don’t have time for another “course?”  The best part about taking strides toward your goals is that the more you do, the more time seems to be available to do it.  That’s because the universe believes in you, and believes in your...

Morning meditation for those short on time

When I first heard about Jessica of Jahmu Chai’s tea meditations, I was stoked.  Making time for a cup of tea is about as close as I seem to get to meditating these days.  Apparently, I’m not the only one.  Jess has found a way to take this sacred time and turn it into an even more powerful ritual of intention and peace through the Tea Meditation Project.  Below, she explains how it works, and offers a tea meditation that you can start with right now. Our favorite way to practice these meditations are with Jessica's own Jahmu Chai. (I put mine in my coffee!) Get a 10% discount on your order of any Jahmu tea by using coupon code MINDKEY at checkout. [caption id="attachment_5274" align="alignleft" width="225"]...

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