Toxic relationships take energy away from our personal path of growth. Ending a relationship that no longer serves us, however, can be a difficult journey.
Someone once said to me, “Some people are easy to love, as long as they are in Australia.” Some people I can only love as long as they live on Mars.
The point is that sometimes toxic relationships make it impossible to do that which we love. When that happens, we have two choices: try to change the relationship, or change the way we experience it. Wendy Watson-Hallowell, Mind Key’s own Belief Coach, shares how we can self-fulfill that which our relationships do not provide, and thereby forge a richer relationship with ourselves, and with those we love most.
By Wendy Watson-Hallowell
Why is it so hard to let go of some relationships?
Many of us feel that we need a very strong justification to walk away from certain relationships. But what if simply feeling bad in a relationship were enough to decide to let go? Some of us stick around hoping that the other person will change, just enough, to make it worth it. Those of us that work to get the other person to change keep thinking, “Maybe this time it will work.”
What if we can’t change them, no matter hard we try? What if we can only change what works for us? When we remember that we are our best own source of what we need, we have a new place to choose from.
For me, the question became, can I drop all of my past ‘expectations’ and allow those I was in toxic relationships with to just be themselves? Could I respond to them in the same way I would the healthy relationships in my life? CONTINUE READING…